Being single is not easy.  Being lonely in singleness is even harder.  It is hard to put on a smile everyday when your life is not being shared with anyone.  It is hard to show up for work everyday and listen to other women talk about the plans that they and their husbands and children have together.

I have witnessed young women flip out, freak out and just go plain crazy because they don't have a man.  Some women put such high hopes into their relationships that when the relationship goes belly up they literally drive themselves into an emotional frenzy.

Yes, it is tough being single.  It is awkward going out to dinner by yourself and taking up a whole table for just you while other women with their families cast pitiful looks and empty smiles in your direction as if to say, "I'm sorry that you have to do this alone".  It is hard to go to church and hear the preacher talk about God's design for marriage, covering and commitment when you can barely get a "hello" from some men not to mention a date.  It is difficult to even plan vacations when you know that there is no one with whom you can share the morning sun or the evening moon.

Being single is not easy especially when you have reached a certain age and marriage has not happened and you must now somehow muster enough faith to resist accepting the fact that society has tossed you into a statistical formula which glaringly predicts that if a woman is not married by your age then most likely she will not be married.  What do you do when the measure of your potential marital status has been reduced to a negative mathematical calculation resulting in an improbable outcome?  How do you steadfastly maintain hope when your situation is shrieking with despair?  After you've assessed your personal qualities and inventoried all of your many accomplishments, there yet remain no logical answer to the inexhaustible question, why in the world am I still single?

When a woman cannot find a definitive answer as to why she remains alone then many women begin the game of Self Blame.  Their assessment of their own personal qualities (or seemingly lack of) become the target of blame and the negative results of which spiral into self pity, low self esteem, and ultimately depression and rejection, all of which usually have long-term devastating consequences upon their lives.  Some, like me at one point, even lose faith.  I have sank so low in despair that I even convinced myself that I must have at some point in time committed an unpardonable sin and that although God forgave me, loneliness was my penalty.

This book is not about how you can get a man.  This book is about how to get you, you!  Inside of each woman lies strength, tenacity, and courage to fix her faults, deal with her disappointments, and to fulfill the assignment for her purpose.  And guess what, when you find yourself, your man will find you.  When you find yourself it won't matter if anyone else does-man or woman! 

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Mia Montgomery is an ordained Evangelist and preaches the raw word of God!  The Lord has reserved and preserved her ministry for this last hour outpour!  Visit her website at www.greatercallministries.com to find out more about this powerhouse preacher and how to receive her monthly e-newsletter, Face-Off.

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